Wednesday, 8 February 2017

Throw Out The Guilt

Hi Darlins,

this will be another one of my rambling posts as I am currently stuck on the sofa recovering from flu, and of course doing nothing gets you thinking, I have been attached to this sofa and fluffy throw for 6 days now which is by any ones standards a very long time, do I feel guilty ? not in the slightest. 
 Having spent years commuting thinking the City of London would collapse without me I have learnt that nothing is as important as your health, back in the day I went to work with what I thought was a bad cold and ended up in the hospital for 10 days with pneumonia and a collapsed lung, having been told to rest up for 6 weeks I was back at work within 2, what a mug, seriously what was I thinking ? my boss was rubbing his hands at having such a div working for him, when you are caught up the whole career trap you really do think you are indispensable, you are not and you must look after yourself.

As women we get riddled with guilt, we think the world will collapse without us if we are out of action for a few days, people will starve and leave the house in unwashed clothes with no lunch, if you have little ones of course you have no choice but to cope,  as single parent I have lived with this one, BUT if you do have someone that can help, let them and just remember all the Saints are in Heaven, you have nothing to prove by being Wonder Woman and at the end of the day no one gives a sod if your kitchen floor didn't get done for a day !

Learning to get rid of guilt is a lifelong task and I don't think there is a single day as a female you don't feel guilty about something,  my advise.......Be like Elsa and ............Let it go 

I am stopping rambling now, as I have no clue where I am going with this post, but I think the upshot is that I want you to be kind to yourself, you deserve it.

Lyn 💋



  1. 8 February 2017 at 17:16

    Very powerful words here. I'm only now slowly realising how much guilt I put on myself... always trying to be perfect, act perfectly, get the perfect results (a very Virgo problem)... and forgiving oneself isn't the easiest thing... Thanks for your words.
    xx finja |

    1. 8 February 2017 at 18:31

      Hi Finja, I think we all do it to ourselves and there really is no need :) I have done it all my life and am slowly learning. Lyn x

  • 8 February 2017 at 17:32

    Your rambling posts are my fave! I totally agree- we need to stop feeling so guilty!
    Ellie xx

    1. 8 February 2017 at 18:32

      Ah Bless you Elliee, thanks for your comment, Lyn x

  • 9 February 2017 at 09:35

    I like your rambles ;) It's a pressure that we put on ourselves to do it all. You're right bosses that you were killing yourselves for really didn't give a damn! In my next life I know what I'd do differently! Get well soon lovely x

    1. 15 February 2017 at 16:25

      I love the thought of a next life Lyn :)


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